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Empowerment and improvement

Trollbabe

Share something you have done recently, to effect positive change in your life.

Nibblet

I can walk with only one crutch now :D My legs are feeling stronger... It's a big deal to me.

Nibblet

And I should also mention ( :D major breakthrough :D )
It is fantastic to have a free hand :mrgreen: I can carry my own coffee!!

WhiteGhost

Today had people jaywalking across the road who promptly stopped in the middle of it, their scattering of small children circling like vultures to yell & gesture rudely at me- the adults that is.
No, you dont stand infront of oncoming vehicle as its oncoming. I am car, I squish you. So I keep driving, reciprocate with more creative insults. Didn't even flip them the bird, was well behaved.
Am pleased. :)

Nibblet

*Limps in grinning from ear to ear*
I just pegged my laundry out on the line :D
By myself :mrgreen:
I didn't even have to ask my neighbour to come and hold the line down for me so I don't have to stretch up :thumbsup:
I thought I'd just give it a go to see what happened. It was a bit tricky at first, and my neighbour did pop out to see what all the yelping was about Grin But I managed. And now I'm pooped Grin
I know it doesn't sound like much, but I haven't been able to do this for over 2 years now. And I am soooooo pleased with myself :banana:

WiseShaman

That's awesome Nibblet!!

:dance:

lunakat

organized my bills!

mournsong

I am drawing like crazy and even feel like maybe doing a comic again... stay tuned! :D

mournsong

I drove a car again today! I got my license years and years ago... but I've always been scared of driving a car, even as a child (I have this recurring nightmare where I or my sister drive a car and something goes wrong - like we can't find the brake or it's not working), so I really have to set myself up to drive. I know it's more anticipation of fear because at the moment itself, I'm fine. But it's important to keep it up or I might lose the skill completely - and much as I hate driving, I don't really want that.

KirthelastGo-Back

[quote:0ee1afe882="lunakat"]organized my bills![/quote:0ee1afe882]

Thanks, Luna! You inspire me to do the same now. Grin

(And I know we'll have this [i:0ee1afe882]exact same[/i:0ee1afe882] exchange again next year. Wink )

lunakat

heh heh heh...

Trollbabe

I've really enjoyed reading this thread so far. Thanks to all who have posted. It's intended to be a shrine of encouragement, especially in times of economic uncertainty.

I straightened out part of my studio. Sounds simple, but I am entombed in the remnants of the life I had before my parents died.

krwordgazer

Kudos to all of you!

I got the furniture moved in my living room! A small accomplishment but it needed doing!

Nibblet, I'm kind of embarrassed to ask, but I seem to have missed where you posted it-- did they find out what your particular ailment is and how to resolve it?

Nibblet

The back problem thing is because of a car accident I was in a few years back. I suffered from a crushed disc in my spine. It still causes me problems sometimes. But I'm OK. I'm alive. And so is my family. I have no recollection of the accident.

Laurel

Oh, Nibblet that sounds awful. I think its good though you can't remember it :hugs:

xenophile80

Kudo's to everyone else so far. :)

I've nearly got the upstairs bathroom reorganized, and we replaced the shower doors with a double curtain rod. :D

We've got the living room over 80% cleaned and reorg'd and the library's not far behind. Our bedroom and the den's about halfway done, as is my studio...

Next up this week - finish up the nursery! We desperately need to get that stupid rough wooden wall sanded and refinished so baby doesn't get splinters every time he looks at it! :P

xenophile80

heh. I wish i could say these were done in any sort of timely manner. It's taken us the past year to get all that done! Just trying to look at the positive side of 'yay, we got something done!' rather than "it took us how long???" ;) Although, reorging the bathroom actually was my project of the last week. :D

And you've got all my respect if you can bathe all your dogs yourself! I gave up on my two monsters when they were about 6 months and left a 6 inch scar on my leg trying to climb out of the tub! The most we do now is trim their nails, brush them and wipe them down with bath wipes between their two vet baths a year. :P

xenophile80

They're 1/2 shepherd, 1/2 malamute and about 70-80ish +lbs these days. Siberia especially is just big enough to put her paws up on your shoulder if she stands up, and is actually a touch taller than me if we're both sitting side by side. Surprised

xenophile80

I will later when I get to the computer that has their pictures on it. :D Feel free to remind me if I don't get to it in a couple of days. Can't seem to remember anything these days - baby has eaten my brains!!! Grin

chocolate!

Bart and I wanna have siberian husky's next year..
@ Xeno can you help us on how we can get them the best education and caring in our home??
It's quite small..and at that time, we are probably both working. Is it possible to have those dogs when you both working 8 hours a day, 5 days a week??

chocolate!

So, you have more dogs than just her??? Cause...then we need to get too.
And what we would do is get a puppy in the vacation. Bart has 3 weeks vacation every year...so... that would work...

We just have to see how much I have to work. If it's just 3 days, it's do-able, but if 4 or more... I don't think I could leave the poor dog all by herself.. :?

Trollbabe

I worked on a very tough and dirty chore that I had put off for years.

Suzene

Got the next round of pots in my patio garden filled and seeded, transplanted some sprouting plants, and, alas, mercilessly pruned back my cucumber seedlings and carrots.

I think the guilt will fade with the first batch of pickles. ;)

Nibblet

Crutchy news!!! (trumpety fanfair)
I left both crutches at home today in favor of a walking stick. I didn't go far, just to the supermarket but I managed just fine :thumbsup: Only a tiny bit off balance at times but nothing I couldn't cope with. Yay me :D

NightAngel

[color=darkred:cbaba53aec]That's great Nibblet! YAY YOU
[quote:cbaba53aec="lunakat"]organized my bills![/quote:cbaba53aec]
Oeh good one!

I made dinner every day after work this week.
*pets own shoulder*

New rule:
The one who's home first cooks, and I'm always the first since my partner found a new job, 1hour by train from here.

[b:cbaba53aec]dislikes cooking[/b:cbaba53aec][/color:cbaba53aec]

WiseShaman

[quote:56720d45ab="Nibblet"]Crutchy news!!! (trumpety fanfair)
I left both crutches at home today in favor of a walking stick. I didn't go far, just to the supermarket but I managed just fine Yessss! Only a tiny bit off balance at times but nothing I couldn't cope with. Yay me Very Happy[/quote:56720d45ab]

That's is so F'ng awesome nibblet!! *hugs her softly*

I knew you couldn't be kept down.

Nibblet

Ta!!! I'm quite pleased with myself... and a little smug Grin

krwordgazer

Hooray for Nibblet! :D

Today, I finally cleaned out under and behind the fridge! Got all the caked dust off the condenser fan and everything! I DA WOMAN! 8)

The fridge seems to be working better already!

mournsong

Well uh... I colored a picture today! With computer, even! :D

21th century, here I come! :twisted:

lunakat

i just fixed my own electrical wires! yay!

Laurel

Ok, here it goes. A few have known, most have not. I left my husband on Monday with the help of some friends. It may not have been a nice way to do it, while he wasn't home, but it was necessary, for me.
Now I am looking at myself, getting to know me and the lay of the new land around me.

NightAngel

That must have been difficult..and took lots of courage! And energy.

Hope you can relax yourself here *hugs*

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[quote:4bd07616f0="Laurel"]
Now I am looking at myself, getting to know me and the lay of the new land around me.[/quote:4bd07616f0]
That sounds like fun! * Do you experiance all this like fun? *

KirthelastGo-Back

As someone who knew for a while the day would come, Laurel, I just want you to know we're really proud of you. Welcome to rest of your life. :hug2:

Clear paths,
"Kir"

krwordgazer

Good for you, Laurel. May your new life bring you into more and more happiness.

*hugs*


Lunakat, good for you! Mournsong, a new picture, computer colored? That's great!

I took my vacuum cleaner apart, fixed it and put it back together. And in front of my son, who saw first hand that Mommy can do things like that just as well as Daddy. :D

Minouche

:D Great!
Hurray for Laurel and everyone here.

lunakat

good for you, laurel!

Laurel

Thank you everyone >:D<

Yes, its fun, but not a game and not just a vacation, like Kir said, the rest of my life.

Next week I start job searching.

Minouche

You are very right Laurel. It's not "a game". I've been confronted to that reality since my own divorce and I've had quite a lot of rough times since I left my ex. Yet I'm still thrilled I did. There is nothing in the world worth giving up what makes you [b:924e16f81e][u:924e16f81e]you[/u:924e16f81e][/b:924e16f81e]. I'm happy you are finally free to be yourself and hope very much that you will find a job to help you further affirm your independence.
We are all here to support you emotionally through this hard time and will do so any time you feel the need to call on us. :hug2:
BTW, have you found furniture? Many times the local Catholic Charities are able to help, either directly or by directing you to other organisms better equipped. Best of luck, my friend.


I'm starting my classes for my teaching credential on Tuesday and yes, I got the financial help :D

Rjjspesh

People tell me things. I sit and ask questions and people like that, they respond to being listened to.

One girlfriend of mine- I can't believe what happened to her- her father was murdered. Unbelieveable... the times that I see her I can't help but ask about it, and ask and ask. I said, please if you don't want to talk anymore, I understand, y'know?
She shook her head and said that no-one wants to talk to her about it. It's like it never happened and when she tries, people go quiet and seem as though they are waiting for her to finish.

I just can't imagine how I would feel if someone stole my Mum from me like that- you would [i:789521eb24]need[/i:789521eb24] to speak. My heart breaks for her. I'm only happy that she trusts me to share her thoughts.

Trollbabe

[quote:00905bf514="Rjjspesh"]People tell me things. I sit and ask questions and people like that, they respond to being listened to... I'm only happy that she trusts me to share her thoughts.[/quote:00905bf514]

This is an excellent ewxample of empowerment: understanding that you have a gift of compassion that can help others, and then putting it to best use.

Nibblet, reading about your progress is very encouraging!

Nibblet

:thumbsup:
Thank you! I reserve the right to feel smug every now and then Grin

KirthelastGo-Back

[quote:b36660ff6f="Kindredsoul"]Feelin darn proud! I'm posting from my fone! Lol! Oh boy, my bill iz gonna b a doozy![/quote:b36660ff6f]

Is that why your post is bordering on leetspeak, Kin? Grin

What kind of phone is it, by the way?

KirthelastGo-Back

[quote:ef0ea45031="Kindredsoul"]leetspeak? Wazzat?? I just have a regular AT-T Shine. but i bettr get me an online plan now! lol[/quote:ef0ea45031]

Leetspeak is self-consciously using numbers to replace letters in certain words, such as leet becoming "133t" or porn becoming "pr0n."

Nibblet

I can't do that. I've tried because all my friends do it to me, but I always slip back to normal writing with punctuation Grin

KirthelastGo-Back

I haven't had to use leetspeak. My last phone had a full physical keyboard (yay!), and the iPhone I have has a surprisingly effective virtual one. Unless you're stuck with only a numeric keypad for text entry, I don't see the function of it now - it's mostly an affectation IMO.

Laurel

Thank you Muriel, I hadn't thought of the Church as a place to look for furniture. There are tons around here too :D There is a pretty cool used store here that I bought a couch and dresser at. I still want another chair and some book shelves, but I'm buying a TV so will have to wait on those.

RedheadEmber

:bow: [color=red:82dd5ea01a]To everybody doing all those amazing things!

What I've done... well... quite recently I wrote a Danish essay to almost an [b:82dd5ea01a]A[/b:82dd5ea01a] (the "almost" comes from the fact that... I [i:82dd5ea01a]did[/i:82dd5ea01a] have a few grammar mistakes... and... for some reason... the difference between [b:82dd5ea01a]lie[/b:82dd5ea01a] and [b:82dd5ea01a]lay[/b:82dd5ea01a] bugs people in every language... :P But hey... I'll just reach the peak at the exam... which... is... kinda... soon... May the 6th to be precise...)[/color:82dd5ea01a]

Laurel

My apartment is feeling more homey. But I am still unemployed. I did, however, join the local YMCA and have begun my redo of myself. My goal is to get into a pretty dress I bought fall of last year. A designer dress, my one and only expensive. So I am gung ho to keep going.

(Oh and Kindred, make that either a rocker with cushions or a glider please) :D :D

Minouche

Never fear: you'll get a job. :)

Nibblet

I had my first shower for almost 3 years this morning :D
I mean.... I've washed since then :roll: But normally I have to have a bath when someone else is around to help me out again. But today I was feeling brave and decided to try the shower. (Can't take crutches into the shower and the motion of washing your hair whilst standing up knock your balance more than you realise.... ) So pretty huge achievement as far as my mobility goes :thumbsup: Yay for me! I'm planning a day trip to Scotland to celebrate! Grin

joselle

*special hugs to nibbles*

Actually I do know how huge something like that can be. Here's hoping it becomes a regular occurrence!

Trollbabe

Not sure exactly how much I have lost, but it's something between 25 and 30 pounds.

Laurel

Quote:
Trollbabe

Not sure exactly how much I have lost, but it's something between 25 and 30 pounds.




Congratulations Trollbabe. Keep up the good work.

I'm still going to the Y, 3 times to 4 times a week.
Trying hard to keep to 4. I've lost 10 pounds so far but have been on a plateau for the last 2 weeks.

Starting to get out and do things with girlfriends. Its nice to be able to just say yes.

RedheadEmber

:bow: :bow: :bow: :bow: :bow: :bow: :bow: :bow: :bow: :bow: :bow:

To all of ya! :D

Trollbabe

Nibblet, how's it going?

I wrote a poem and showed it to my writer's group for critique. They liked it and said I should get it published.

I overcame at least two of my fears this weekend.

Kyri2015

A new improvement in my life.....well there's quite a few......


1. I'm moving to a new house.....

2. My dog just gave birth.......

3. My sister got into one of those hard schools that barely anybody can go to in Hawaii.......

Badger

I started aikido lessons about six months ago, on January 2009.
Despite how hard I trained, I did not figure out the special words, meaning the moves.

Then they announced the belt exam some time ago, and we started training more and more furiously.
And suddenly it dawned to me. You were able to see the small light bulb above my head, when everything finally got organized in my head.

So, in six months, I've reached my first belt-rank, which is just the beginning of my path as an aikidoka. But it still feels good to have actually learned something.

Nibblet

[quote:1a5a704824="joselle"]*special hugs to nibbles*

Actually I do know how huge something like that can be. Here's hoping it becomes a regular occurrence![/quote:1a5a704824]

:oops: Didn't see this until now. :oops: Thanks Joselle! I had two more showers since then Grin

[quote:1a5a704824="Trollbabe"]Nibblet, how's it going?[/quote:1a5a704824]

I'm on a bad week this week :roll: It's like trying to climb an icy hill.
I'm my own worst enemy though. When I'm doing ok I do too much, then I pay for it later :roll: I admit... making a new garden gate wasn't the smartest idea I ever had, but it looks good Grin

So this week I haven't been able to even get to the bathroom unaided, and my daughter has been cutting my food up into little tiny pieces because I can't do it. She's so sweet :D

KirthelastGo-Back

*hugs to Nibblet, if it won't make her ache too much*

twinklebug

:banana: I got a job interview! Finally!

Trollbabe

YAY TWINKLE!! :clap:

midnightmoon

Good luck, Twinkle! :thumbsup:

twinklebug

Thanks everyone! I had my interview yesterday! I think it went really well. *crosses fingers* :D

Kyri2015

*crosses fingers too*

Trollbabe

I approached a big chore I don't like to do, and broke it down into reasonable lengths of time that I can accomplish every few days.

When I wanted a snack today, I ate a cucumber instead of a candy bar. I also took a long walk instead of watching TV.

Badger

[quote:2008f99d9e="Trollbabe"]I approached a big chore I don't like to do, and broke it down into reasonable lengths of time that I can accomplish every few days.

When I wanted a snack today, I ate a cucumber instead of a candy bar. I also took a long walk instead of watching TV.[/quote:2008f99d9e]
Congratulations on the healthy choises. :)

twinklebug

I got the job! :jump: I'm going to be building hiking trails this summer!

lunakat

awesome!

Trollbabe

Yeah Twinklebug! Congratualtions!

WiseShaman

*runs in an stops*

I feel empowered by the fact I kept my clothes on for ALMOST the whole day!!!

*runs out screaming*

G0lden

Thats' funny Shaman. :thbpt:

WiseShaman

I do have my moments G0lden!

*streaks past and runs out the door*

WiseShaman

*runs in with a weed eater*

I don't need much!

*runs out*

G0lden

Happy to help. Grin

G0lden

Sorry. Grin

lunakat

legends of the streaker....

G0lden

The moon just got a lot lower. Grin

WhiteGhost

[color=darkblue:ec035750c6]Still looks like a Full Moon to me![/color:ec035750c6]

G0lden

Precisiely my point. Grin

Trollbabe

I noticed a thread on sobriety at http://www.elfquest.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=6247

This is an excellent example of self-improvement. When an individual conquers substance abuse and addiction, society benefits in many ways,

Nibblet

I forgot about this thread!

Can I just add my little revelation?
I walked downstairs without my crutches or walking sticks a couple of days ago. I haven't done that in years. And I didn't scoot down on my butt either :P
Sounds like not a great deal, but I was happy about it.
And I cut down my coffee intake from 12+ cups a day to 4. The headaches didn't last for that long. And now I find that I just don't need it like I thought I did. But I'm not as pleased about the coffee addiction as I am about walking downstairs.

blackmagicrose

I'm just trying to be a good Mom and trying to get healthy and lose some of the baby weight I gained with Kian. It's really hard with severe hypertension. But I want to be around a long time for my little boy. And I want to be able to give him a baby brother or sister (which he may resent me for later) so he's not raised as an only child. And I am trying to get stuff made so that I can make up the stuff I need to sell in order to put it away for him for college.

twinklebug

I'm going to be learning Reiki I! :D I'm so excited!

Oh, and... I cleaned my room! :o Almost thoroughly this time!

KirthelastGo-Back

Nibblet, so glad to hear about the health situation. :hug2: Best news I've heard from you yet!

And by the way... it's hard to say this to a mother, but as for Steffi - she's smart, so I think she'll be all right in secondary school. You needn't go gray just yet. :)

Trollbabe

I've read books and attended classes to learn how to start my own business. Also put about a thousand bucks (American) into dental work, so I will always have a nice smile.

Minouche

Started my PhD program two weeks ago and, for the 1st time in my life, my assignments aren't late and I'm overcoming some of my fear of online learning.
So far, though, the only thing powerful resulting of this is the migraine with which I go to bed each night. Harrumph!

Startear

I've gone from being dehydrated, fever, choughing a lot, migraine and nose being stuffed to just having a stufed nose. With this rate, I might be well at Saturday.

Trollbabe

Today I called my first potential client.

Trollbabe

Sent samples off to first potential client, and finished reading a book on sales.

Minouche

Congratulations

WolfMoonSky

I can be very fast, even when I'm in pain ^^

Minouche

I hope that means you're going to be quick about going to the doctor

WolfMoonSky

Eh...that was not what I meant ^^;....I ment even when I'm hurt all over my body, I'm still fast with working and don't let people show my pain..for 12 hours!^^

I don't know when I'm going to a doctor, I don't trust doctors. I don't even have the time for it..

Trollbabe

My client liked my work, and will publish it. Ghostwritten, sorry i can't share it, but the credentials are what is important.

Trollbabe

Met client today for the first time. Learned three important things:



-Go with an LLC. Sole prop. doesn't give protection and tax breaks.

-Get a business card, even if it's a temporary one. Make a few on a computer, and run off copies on heavy stock.

-Doughnuts are a deal-breaker.

Trollbabe

Met a business owner who was kind enough to offer more advice. Working on a complicated project right now. I find that self-empowerment attracts positive people.

Minouche

it works both way: when I need a picker-upper, I read your posts. They give me the get-up-and-go I need to improve myself tooHug

Trollbabe

Thanks! People think I am insane for working three jobs. I don't think about it, I just do it. People in my extended family have survived personal and financial loss, disability, persecution, the Great Depression, POW forced labor, combat, I don't know what else, and have come out on top. This is nothing.

Trollbabe

Finished my second and third assignment. Doing more writing this weekend. Someday I will get paid for this.

Trollbabe

Pipe burst over the weekend and we didn't have water for a couple of days. Five trips to the hardware store to get all the right parts, but we got it fixed.



No shortage of pro bono work. See my SCORE counselor this week. At least now I will be able to take a shower.



Had one of my blog posts published with my name on it, which helps my credentials.

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